Relationships are an invaluable gift for life
Love relationships may be the place that offers the greatest potential for healing and growth as men and women, but also as human beings.
It is a place where we leave the safe shores of ideals and hopes, practice true listening, learn respect for the opposite sex, and build trust through honesty and commitment. An invaluable gift for life.
Hopes are high for love to deliver
In love we look for safety, passion, acknowledgment, peace, relaxation, support, friendship, intimacy, freedom, status, continuity, family and more: a list of expectations and hopes predestined to disappoint.
Adding to the complexity, are significant differences in perception and experience as men and women. Differences that require vast amounts of respect and understanding so that we don’t become adversaries, but rather in service of one another.
Satisfying our needs becomes a major challenge
When relationships become based mainly on the satisfaction of needs and the avoidance of fears, they turn into a righteous affair. ‘Who loves or hurts more’ and ‘who gives or receives more’ turn into a competition.
What started out being a need, each partner naturally has, becomes the truth, discounting what each carries from his or her past.
Coming for counseling, alone or together, states the obvious
Coming for counseling as a couple is not trivial and can at times feel risky. It is often an acknowledgment of a rift between partners at its minimum, while sometimes being the last attempt at bridging differences.
Questions that arise are: can we find back to one another? What will ‘making it’ look like? Looking ahead, will things change, can trust be repaired, will my partner change, will it be safer, boring, nourishing or will there be a sacrifice?
Taking an honest look. TOGETHER!
We want to find ways to step out of our roles and heal wounds from our past, by taking an honest look at our fears, ideals and patterns. The familiar often feels strangely comfortable but carries no benefits for a healthy relationship.
The space offered here for both of you is a sacred one, balanced, open, honest and filled with wisdom.
If the words above resonate with you or similar circumstances leave you looking for support and guidance, you’re welcome to be in touch.
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